So, a few days ago I was about to start my son potty training. He is almost 27 months old, so 2 and a bit.
However, something told me to wait. I kept hearing the advice of others or google in my mind saying don’t start him too early, once you start do not give up and because of fear I think and a gut feeling I have decided to wait another little while. I would like to prepare myself and educate myself a bit more before I start.
So, I talked about this on my Instagram stories and wow I think I received about 70 private messages from other parents with their personal advice, tips and tricks. However, they were all contrasting!
Two of my lovely followers sent me Lora Jensen’s manual who is known as the Queen of Potty Training, she has a 3-day potty training manual, which I have now read cover to cover. For anyone interested you can find this on www.3daypottytraining.com.
So, I will give you a feel of what I was sent, and I will also give you some information on the 3-day potty training manual. However, please know that I am no expert, I am still totally confused but you may take something positive from the different (although contrasting) pieces of advice, hopefully.
- Underwear during the day, pull ups by night, if you go 7 days with no accidents remove underwear.
- Do short bursts of positive sessions, then return to nappies, leave it a few weeks then go again.
- Do not try to start at Christmas or over any holidays as the child needs to be in their regular routine.
- Buy crocs for your child during those days that you start potty training, better then washing socks and shoes every day.
- Bring them to the loo every 30 minutes.
- Once you start do not stop, do not return to nappies.
- Bring them shopping with you to pick out their own “big boy/girl pants”.
- Go straight to the toilet seat with an insert, do not use an actual potty because then it feels like you must train them twice.
- Mummy keep calm and they will keep calm.
- Do not ask them if they want to go to the toilet just bring them! All the asking gets them frustrated after a while and they feel like you are annoying them or that they are being punished.
- Teach boys at the beginning to just pee sitting down, then when they are a little bit older Daddy can teach them about standing and going pee.
- Buy a waterproof sheet for your couch or sofa if they are sitting watching tele.
- Use pull ups for a while and start by “practising”.
- Kids need to feel the wet to understand the concept, they will not feel this in pull ups.
- Put your child on the potty when you are running the bath or run the tap while they are on the loo.
- Books, I received a few different book recommendations.
Then the 3-day potty training manual has some excellent points which I will take on board and I am glad I read BUT I think it’s a bit intense for me.
- She discusses the signs of readiness, number 1 can your child communicates his or her wants. Number 2, they must not go to bed with a bottle. Number 3, if your child is over the age of 22 months then they should be waking up dry.
- You cannot leave your house for the 3 days, you will be by your child’s side every minute of those 3 days, in order to be able to read and catch the signs of your child needing the loo. Literally, you will not be able to go into the kitchen and cook the dinner.
- Get lots of high fibre foods for your child to avoid constipation.
- Have your reward chart or treats ready to go, she is very strong on huge positive reactions to successful wees or poos which is great so yes have lots of treats or stickers ready to go.
- Basically, the first morning you and your child throw all nappies/pull ups that are in your house into the bin. The child now knows that using a nappy is not an option they are gone.
- She believes that it is very important to do day and night time training together to avoid confusion for the child.
- Explain to your child that it is very important to keep your underwear dry.
- She suggests saying “Tell Mummy when you have to go” do not say “Do you have to go pee?” because children like to be in control, so it is a subtler way of asking them which I think is great.
- You must catch your child in the act of going pee or poo, not just sometimes but every time, hence why she suggests not leaving their side. When your child starts going in their underwear, quickly scoop them up and rush them into the bathroom, say “Yucky, your underwear is not dry anymore”! Not sure about this one myself but…
- Never sit your child on the toilet with books, distractions etc. while trying because there should not be “Trying”. They should either go in a couple of seconds or if not take them off.
- When your child’s stops playing for a couple of seconds this is a good indicator.
- She suggests waking your child up from their sleep or nap 1 hour before they usually wake up and bring them to the toilet and then put them back to bed but really are we really going to do this? I don’t think I could.
- She says that this is to help the child learn that it is ok to get up and go pee during the night and it is also expected.
- In summary I think she is a big believer in not taking your child to the loo every 20 minutes to try. NEVER take your child to the bathroom to “try”. The 3-day method is about training your child to learn his or her own body signs, which I can see makes a lot of sense.
- Finally, she also explains to never ever clean your child’s underwear after an accident by laying them down as this makes them return to baby mode. Always clean them standing up.
Seriously, I really am none the wiser, well I am I suppose, there are definitely bits and pieces I have learned from doing this research that I will take with me but a clear overall strategy I still do not have.
I am thinking, I will probably go cold turkey with pull ups at night time, until they eventually run dry but who knows, wish me luck.